As for me, after I have backed up the truck within inches of the pin of the 5er, I'll raise and/or lower the 5er within an inch below of the receiver plate, so when backing into the pin, the truck will actually lefts the trailer up a bit. There's nothing like the sound of the pin locking into place on the receiver. When detaching, after chalking the 5er tires, I just raise the pin enough to see a space between the receiver plate and the lube plate, pull the handle out to release the pin, unplug the cord and brake cable and pull forward.
Ed & Laureen
2005 F-250 4X4 SD 6.0 Powerstroke
2009 Cherokee Wolf Pack 285wp (toy hauler version)