Finally an update.
Following Eaz Lifts instructions I angled the hitch head to 12 degrees hooked up with the 800lb bars and went for a drive.
I'm hooked with only 2 links left hanging so I need to tilt the head up a little to get to 3 links free. Trailer look balanced, will measure it out tomorrow.
Ride is better. Much less bounce. Even on roads I expected to have that oscillation it was better. 70 MPH on interstate it was well behaved with no movement. (Some sway, still thinking about drivers side sway bar)
I will get pics and specs to Mike at Camco for his input but I think I'm close. Finally.