I'm with you, Loaura! I'm female and I tow about 70% of the time and 100% of the time when backing. I usually did all the towing when we had our popup and hybrid, along with the backing, but then I developed vertigo problems and he began doing all the driving and backing of our 35'TT.
When we upgraded to the 5'er, I was competent enough and confident enough with my vertigo to begin driving again. (Yes, I still have it, but I have adjusted and use measured movements to compensate). DH HATES to back the 5'er in because he says it doesn't respond like the TT did, so now, I have backing in duties while he, too, stands back and waves his arms.
I guess both of us can do it and I have HAD to do it when we had our popup. We were at the beach and he ended up in the hospital for 5 days. When he was finally well enough to come home, I packed it up, hooked it up, picked him up and ran for home.
I can't believe the number of women (sorry) that think they are too small, petite, or whatever to drive their rig. There is really nothing that is required that takes someone with massive muscles to do! We have hydraulics on the front of the 5'er and the back stabilizers can be handled with a drill. Huh, I wonder why I take DH with me, anyway.
Oh yeah, I remember!!!!