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Old 04-10-2014, 08:33 PM   #71
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Let's give their kids a benefit of a doubt.

I doubt that their adult children our worried about a loss of inheritance. That's a dynamic that I just do not see in real life too often (my day job is managing money so I get to see these things play out at all levels of wealth and rarely have I seen children that blatant).

My guess, and only Sewhappy knows for sure, is that the kids are worried the purchase could impact their folks' cash flow later in life and so cause issues if the money was needed for health care costs or other costs and not there.

Understandable concern but its an unnecessary worry. I find most people make wise decisions on big purchases later in life. The saying that "tigers don't change their stripes" applies to most retirees. That is, if they were prudent in how they made their purchase decisions over the last 40 years, than they tend to be prudent throughout retirement. The kids just need to trust their folks that they continue to be smart in these decisions.

@Sewhappy- good for you with this change! 20 years is a long time to have waited and no doubt you'll enjoy the new trailer even more because of it.
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Old 04-11-2014, 08:37 AM   #72
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Seriously? it's considered being "a selfish inconsiderate parent" to want to enjoy the fruits of your *own* labor over the years? Is it inconsiderate to want to ENJOY your after-raising-children years?

If so, then by golly I'm one helluva inconsiderate parent. I guess I'm just fortunate that OUR children don't see it that way. I have three grown sons, DH has two grown sons, and not ONE of them begrudged our choice to start early with our retirement plans to purchase an RV and travel.

We both have always put our kids first (one thing that immediately garnered my admiration for him) and "did the responsible and right thing".

If any of our sons had objected we'd have firmly reminded them that we worked HARD to support them emotionally and equally HARD to support them financially, and since we've always been so responsible, there's no reason to believe we're suffering from early senility. /snark So, we're DOING this with or without your approval. "If you behave yourself, you *might* get an invite to go along with us for a trip or two!" If not, we'll just ground you from the RV!
Why would you think I was talking to you?

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I was specifically referring to Crabbyguy's statement of "You earned it and the it's none of the kid's business." There are worlds of kids out there that, IMHO, are helping "earn" some of that money in the form of sacrificed time with parents. Just because the kids weren't at the job doesn't mean they weren't having to sacrifice for the pay. If that's not you, then ignore it. But there are MANY out there like this. Maybe Crabbyguy is just being "crabby". There's a reason I put the word "might" in my earlier statement.
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Old 04-11-2014, 09:07 AM   #73
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I fully agree. Invite the downers over to help you load it up for your first trip and wave goodbye to them as you pull.
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Old 04-11-2014, 09:24 AM   #74
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Old 04-11-2014, 09:50 AM   #75
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Why would you think I was talking to you?

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I was specifically referring to Crabbyguy's statement of "You earned it and the it's none of the kid's business." There are worlds of kids out there that, IMHO, are helping "earn" some of that money in the form of sacrificed time with parents. Just because the kids weren't at the job doesn't mean they weren't having to sacrifice for the pay. If that's not you, then ignore it. But there are MANY out there like this. Maybe Crabbyguy is just being "crabby". There's a reason I put the word "might" in my earlier statement.
It sounds like liberal logic to me but I'll bite.......Nope, not crabby at all, just stating reality. I raised my kid to be responsible and independent including financially independent, not some spoiled whiner who hopes in the end he'll receive some inheritance cause he "sacrificed" time with me or I with him. If I told my son now that I'm holding off on a purchase because of sacrifices you mentioned, he'd be insulted.
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Old 04-11-2014, 09:54 AM   #76
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Why would you think I was talking to you?

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I was specifically referring to Crabbyguy's statement of "You earned it and the it's none of the kid's business." There are worlds of kids out there that, IMHO, are helping "earn" some of that money in the form of sacrificed time with parents. Just because the kids weren't at the job doesn't mean they weren't having to sacrifice for the pay. If that's not you, then ignore it. But there are MANY out there like this. Maybe Crabbyguy is just being "crabby". There's a reason I put the word "might" in my earlier statement.
Did you help your parents out with the expectation of getting paid? What logic we have here.
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Old 04-11-2014, 11:06 AM   #77
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It sounds like liberal logic to me but I'll bite.......Nope, not crabby at all, just stating reality. I raised my kid to be responsible and independent including financially independent, not some spoiled whiner who hopes in the end he'll receive some inheritance cause he "sacrificed" time with me or I with him. If I told my son now that I'm holding off on a purchase because of sacrifices you mentioned, he'd be insulted.
Hah!!! Talk about making assumptions about people!!! Everyone that knows me would laugh at you calling me a liberal. :rollback: You're putting words in my mouth when you assume I am arguing in favor of the OP's kids inheritance. I simply pointed out that the objecting party COULD be a little upset IF he/she had the type of parent that never spent time with them BECAUSE they wanted to amass a large amount of savings rather than spend time with them when they could. There are worlds of people out there like this. I'm not taking about being financially responsible. I'm talking about those that value money over family. Did you invest time and money into your family and raise them to be productive, responsible citizens? GREAT!!! In doing so you were still able to save and enjoy retirement? EVEN BETTER!!!! Did the second but not the first? Then you're not that great of a person, IMHO- and you'll have a hard time convincing me otherwise. I'm not pointing fingers here. Simply stating another point of view to consider. You decide which you are- I'm not making assumptions about anyone here, regardless of the assertion to the contrary.
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Did you help your parents out with the expectation of getting paid? What logic we have here.
Did you stop to think why I put the word "earn" in quotes? That meant I was speaking figuratively.
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Did you stop to think why I put the word "earn" in quotes? That meant I was speaking figuratively.
Quotes or not, the mere suggestion of such is a serious statement.

What's more sad, this is how many, many people think today.
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Old 04-11-2014, 12:06 PM   #80
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[QUOTE=Sewhappy;583323]Well, here we are waiting to take delivery on a new CC36 ckts, two of our adult children are happy for us and one is a downer.
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Like everything else in life, you can't please everyone. Some people are glass-half-full types and some are glass-half-empty types. Sounds like you have 2 of the former and 1 of of the latter. If you wait on a unanimous vote from your children you will never do anything. Tell the downer that you appreciate their concern and value their advice, but that everything will be fine, and go have a good time.
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