Thank you for all the replies. Once we figured out that the table doesn't simple lift, but unfolds in a very unnatural "z" shape it, it became obvious enough what we were doing wrong. Like most of you, I'm not loving the design on the table. We've found it to be quite wobbly, but overall it isn't completely disappointing.
I wish I could have replied sooner to you all but internet in state parks is a little tricky.
Its awesome knowing that this community is here and so supportive, especially as first time owners! Thank you again for all the replies, I hope to reciprocate once we get more familiar with what the heck we are doing.