When I had that hitch, I cut a tennis ball in half, drilled a hole in it, placed a wood dowel (painted fluorescent orange) in the hole, and simply set it on the ball. I also put a painted line on the middle of the kingpin. Aligning the dowel with the kingpin solved my alignment problem. The distance issue was just a matter of practice . . . I'd stop the moment the dowel fell, got out to check how much further I needed to go, and nudged forward accordingly. Once used to it, it took all of 5-10 minutes to hook up. Good luck!